This is not about any advertisement line. It is a short narration of a same incident on 3 different days.
Day1:-
I was going to my office. From Kothaguda to Hi.Tech city autowalla takes 4 Rs. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 4 Rs, I gave him.
Day2:-
I was not in good mood this day due to some reason.
I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas have increased the price to 5 Rs and I was unaware of it. I sat in Auto, reached Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was not in good mood this day, his words increased the intensity of my bad mood. I was angry inside. I did not manifest my anger on him, but I wanted to! I gave him 5 Rs and left the place.
Day3:-
I was in very good mood this day.
I was going to my office. From Kotaguda to Hi.Tech city autowallas take 5 Rs. I sat in Auto, got down at half the distance from Hi.Tech city, he asked me 5 Rs! I said, “Bhaiya 4 lagta hai”. He started shouting at me. Since I was in good mood this day, his words did not affect me at all. My inside state did not change. I gave him 5 Rs and left the place. In fact if this day he would have asked me for 10 Rs for the same distance I would have given him without any problem.
There is something very important to see in here.
When I am in good mood, uncertainties of external environment doesn’t affect me much. If I am in bad mood and if my external environment is not according to my expectations then it really affects me.
So is it really the external environment which affects me? Is it really the external environment which is the cause of my problems? Is it really other person who is making me unhappy?
When a human being is unhappy inside, he expects his external environment to be certain according to his expectations. When a human being is happy inside, uncertainties of external environment does not really affect him, rather he is able to see the uncertainty from a distance i.e without getting himself affected by the problem and is able to empathize with other person if he is doing something wrong.
This is something which I feel is very important and is the root cause of the problems which we see within ourselves, in our family, in our relationships, in our society and even in nature.
A human being naturally expects Certainty, Consistency, Continuity of Happiness. When he is Happy within, he spreads and shares his happiness with others. When he is unhappy within he expects to get happiness from his environment, by expecting Certainty, Consistency and Continuity of external environment according to his all expectations.
This is the root cause of problems like domination, jealousy, hatred, opposition etc. which we see in the society and which we all do not want. But due to lack of understanding of the root cause of problem we keep blaming other person that other person is making me unhappy and other person should be corrected for my happiness. And the fact remains that even if the other person is corrected my possibility to get angry/jealous/hatred etc. with some other person remains available and if I get hurt with that some-other-person again then I want that some-other-person to be corrected. In this way we never take the responsibility of our own Happiness. We feel that it is other person’s responsibility to make me happy and we ourselves are unaware of this feeling/assumption.
Now the question comes, what is Happiness then? If my Happiness is dependent on my external environment then am I ever going to be Happy? So what is the solution?
Solution is, Knowledge.
It is the lack of understanding within an individual(ourselves) at all the levels of his/our living, is the root cause of all the problems which we see at all the levels of our living today.
It is Knowledge which helps us understanding, Happiness, Trust, Respect, Confidence etc. which are the basic requirement of a human being. In lack of understanding of these we tend to fulfill these requirements through other people around us and it gives rise to the situation like two beggers are trying to snatch the coins from each other’s bowl!
Since it starts from my own internal environment, how my external environment would be, so I said, “Ye andar ki baat hai”.
Knowledge includes, understanding related to,
Self
Family
Society
Nature
